What has your experience been of loss or grief?

Accepting and respecting the emotions of loss and greif. Let it happen, when it happens.

Loss and greif is not just about death in our lives. It is also about separation and sudden change. It is a natural human state and process.

Over the last two years I have experienced greif and loss, not only with family members, but with work colleges leaving the work place and marrage breakdown and separation.

At work we had dramatic changes, a result of which left many people disenchanted and we have basically had 100% staff turnover in two years (new people leaving after 6 months) from a stable envirionment where people stayed for over ten years. Experiencing this has been so difficult, I have had to change the way I thought about work and how I felt about it as well as deal with all these wonderful souls leaving that I had become so very attached to.

Accepting the flows of change, have been a large focus on how I dealt with these losses.

Then there was my marrage. An anchor I had attached myself to for the rest of my life, was suddenly cut free. This was my future, my life, my purpose? Re arranging how I thought and felt about my marrage has taken so very long, but it has happened. During that time I have learned so much about myself. And again, this was about accepting change.

I have had the deaths of my step father and his father, my step grandfather. These people had significant places in my childhood. Significantly shaped the person I am. They where not saints and where not very nice people, but their behaviours, actions and words made me who I choose to be today.

I think dealing with their deaths has been a healing journey on so many levels. Connecting to them with compassion. See them as human, with frailties, helped me to de demonise what I knew of them. Helped me to releace the confusion and anger, and helped me to find peace with their souls and connect to their higher purpose of helping me to find myself. Even by being who they are simply made me choose, to conscously choose who I am. And not just let life run amock in a state of reaction.

So please know, that when it seems impossible to live with the loss and greif you are experiencing, please please know, that you are so very precious to this earth and so very unique to this life, that we need you to find a light through the pressures of change and allow and trust the universe to bring you to new connections, new loves, new friends and new securities.